Dov Baron – Mind Mastery

I posted a status on FaceBook that got some very interesting responses.

If you are on Facebook I’m sure you’ll agree that Facebook in its self is a rather fascinating ‘place’ or phenomena.

Originally, when certain people tried to get me on FB, I was resistant and now I have many thousands of  ‘friends’. However, the question I have is do our FB ‘friends’ really know us? Do they even care about who we are, what matters to us, or even what we do?

When I posed the original question on FB so many of my  FB ‘friends’ shared wonderful kind words that touched my heart. I am so grateful to those who replied to my FB status question… I feel enormously honoured to be seen by you all and I deeply value our relationship. What was fascinating was that there were many people who I feel I know well who did not write anything, (of course they may never have seen my question). Just as surprising were all the wonderful comments I got from people I did not even know.

Many years ago I gave a presentation on: “Friends, when to hold them, when to fold them.” I like to share with you a portion of that presentation and you can let me know what you think and feel.

We have all heard people speak of ‘fair weather friends’. These are the people who are your friend in good times…

It is said that when you hit hard times ‘fair weather friends’ will move out faster than bugs from a burning mattress. Clearly it makes sense that if a friend is only there for the good times this isn’t much of a friend.

What I want to share with you are some other kinds of friends you may want to pay attention to, in particular ‘bad weather friends’. I know you’ve been told that real friends will stick with you in times of trouble, and although that is true there is a certain type of friend who is only really there for you in your bad times.

You can probably remember a time when you were in a crappy relationship and this particular friend was right there for you. They told you that s/he is a fool to let you go.  Or maybe you can remember a time when you were in serious financial ‘doo-doo’, and that certain friend was once again, right there for you, telling you that ‘they’ just don’t see your talents and skills. 

In fact the worse things get the closer this kind of friend is. I can almost hear you say; “well what’s wrong with that?”

It’s not that there is something wrong with it, in fact I would agree that a ‘real friend’ would be there for you in such times.  As much as I highly suggest that you be in full gratitude for those who are genuinely there for you in such times of challenge. That being said; we may want to examine this kind of relationship with at least the same level of inquiry as that of a ‘fair weather friend’.

In the case of a ‘fair weather friend’ it’s pretty easy to see why the person is your friend, but have you ever considered why a ‘bad weather friend’ might be hanging out? Just as you might notice a ‘fair weather friend’ fade into the distance during tough times, a ‘bad weather friend’ will disappear during the good times, (particularly if the good times last).

At this point you may be wondering why a ‘bad weather friend’ would go away in good times, well the answer may surprise you. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying:

Misery Loves Company!

There will always be these type of people in your life because at either a conscious or unconscious level they find that you being in the crapper allows them to feel better about themselves.

A ‘bad weather friend’ is incredibly supportive when you are down however, when you are up, you are seen as a threat. They may even use the kind of language that will tell you what kind of friend they really are.  If they say:  “when you become successful, find a lover, get promoted, (or any other kind of status change) you won’t want to be around me anymore.” This is the language of a ‘bad weather friend’.

Good friends, real friends, are there for you in both the good and the bad times. When things are tough they will hold you and tell you what’s great about you. However, when you are wallowing they will kick your ass to get you going if that’s what it takes. This same good friend will be overjoyed for your success in any given area. They want the best for you even if it means that for you to be truly happy and fulfilled they could lose out.

Real friends want you to become all that you are at that soulful level of fulfilling your potential.

A real friend would rather walk away than support you playing small.

A real friend will lift you up so that you can describe the view ahead and in turn inspire them to go to the next level.

I said earlier that Misery Loves Company, well so does Joy! So…

Get yourself around those who are playing big in all areas, especially joy!

I am a blessed man in more ways than I can say here. However, one way I know this for certain is I am surrounded by “Real Friends”. Some I have known for years, some I have known for moments. Some are blood family, some are spiritual family. Some I have hugged and kissed with deep affection, some I know only via the electronic world of this blog, our members site at ResonanceCity.com, and some even through FaceBook , Twitter and YouTube.

However, we know each other, I thank you for being more than a ‘fair weather friend’ or a ‘bad weather friend’.

I am deeply grateful for each of you who lift me up upon your shoulders to shine a light out into the world.

Thank you for celebrating my success, and telling everyone you know about what I teach.

I look forward to your feedback

With gratitude,

P.S. Have you heard “The Accidental Guru” Radio Show yet? I’m your host every Friday Morning from 11AM-12 noon (PST) Details are at: http://radiodov.com

P.S. I deep enjoyed the FaceBook responses, so I  have copied my question and some of the responses below as I thought you’d enjoy the wise and sometime funny insights:

My Question: Are we friends? If you do consider me a friend, please tell me why that is.

• Alexander Kozupytsya
  I heard a lot of good things about you plus you like Tom Jones! They say you’re the new Anthony Robbins….the self help buffs!

• Danielle-Nicole Lareau
  Because..you are me..and I like who you are..pure love and compassion my friend…ciao for now Dani

• Andrea Lachner.  Facebook (and My Space and Twitter LOL) has opened a whole new world to us – we can become ‘friends’ with people we’ve never met (and possibly never will meet) in person. Not to mention people in completely different time zones. Why do I become ‘friends’ with someone like you? Because you are inspiring!!! And I am always keen to read what you have for us to read & think about.
  I have learnt along the way that there are many different type of friends in our lives. There’s the ones that will always be in your life no matter where in the world we each end up. There are the ones that are friends to you only when they need you or when you yourself need them. Which is a paradox to the saying that some people are your friends only in the good times – yup, I know of people that are only your friend in bad times – weird huh? But nevertheless, every person we meet (in person or these days in cyberspace) has something to offer to our lives in some way or another.
  The word ‘friend’ has many more meanings and levels to it than just one or 2 words
  My 2 cents worth this early in the morning (for me) LOL…
  Love and light XX… Read More

• Krystal Pine
  I love you Dov because you are kind and considerate, but also, you have a backbone and stand up for the truth, you are gentle and honest.

• Rosally Saltsman
  Yes. A friend is someone you trust, who possesses qualities you admire, who shares things in common with you and with whom you feel an emotional or spiritual chemistry. A friend is someone whom you feel you can grow through or with and help them to grow as well. It isn’t unusual in today’s technology or higher spiritual awareness to have friends you’ve never met. It’s just hard to have friends you never see.

• Kim Dushinski… Yes, I consider you a friend because you have gone dog walking with me more times than you know. (Via my MP3 player, of course).

• Natalie Gibson
  Because you are who you are and you’re not afraid to show it, because you’re continually pushing your own growth at an exponential rate, because you are profoundly integral with yourself and with others, because you don’t bullshit me with social nice disease and because we laugh and have fun together. simple, really.

• Naseem Rahman
  We are born into our families and we are related to them by blood. Yet, there are some people who enter our lives for a reason and they become a part of our family, leaving a lasting impression on our lives. You are one such person in my life, Dov. You are my friend, my mentor,my guide and the voice of reason for me when the chips are down & I … feel cornered in a dark place. You are God’s gift to this universe, making it a better place to live. May the light of your enlightenment spread to places afar …You are simply the BEST….with Love Naseem

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I had a dream, in that dream you were having a major challenge because someone had rejected you or what you believed to be true. With a fake smile and a positive attitude you were pretending it wasn’t bothering you… I could see that it was.

I stopped you and asked if you trusted me?…You said you did.  Looking you in the eye and giving you all my attention, I said; Please remember that you are not alone, unless you make yourself alone. Reach out, there’s no shame in being in a difficult situation. The shame is to think we need to hide.

Until you begin making a shift to thinking, feeling and behaving in ways that are independent of the need to please others, you will never truly embrace following your heart and soul’s passion.  Furthermore, if you do not develop the kind of independence I’m referring to, you can be pretty certain that true wealth will also evade you.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not suggesting that you become some heartless ‘a-hole’ who doesn’t care about anyone. No, this is about understanding that when you begin to follow your path, recognize your unique value, and make decisions based on that, money and wealth will flow to you. Once this begins to happen you can also be fairly certain that you will, plain and simple begin to piss some folks off.

You are not alone, we, the hearts,  souls and minds dedicated to raising the consciousness of the planet are here for you and with you.

I look forward to your comments and feedback.

Until next time, live with courage, Dov…

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Getting them to bang down your door to give you money is all about finding Your Unique Value .

To create true abundance in your life you will need two broad spectrum things: An external process and an internal process.

Having an external experience of abundance is a direct result of living an internal experience of abundance.

However, we all know that to some degree that internal experience is also determined at least to some degree by the external experience . It goes something like this: Wealthy thinking/feeling, (internal) — Wealthy experiences , money and stuff, (external). Having the money and stuff gives us validation of experiencing abundance and in so doing creates the thinking and feeling, (internal again).

The thought process and feelings build within us , (internal) and add to our field attracting more of the external experiences that validate us , (external). Put simply:

Being leads to having and having leads to being.

It’s a loop . And so you see that you must have both experiences going on , because one feeds into the other over and over again. In this article I want to focus on you getting the external result because as far as I know I’ve already offered you the very best internal process: “The Equation for Manifestation” .

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Okay back to the external experience of abundance : I have said on many occasions that real abundance is a lot more than money; in fact money is only one expression of wealth. Nonetheless, it is an important part of the whole experience.

If you want to create wealth in your life you have got to be able to recognize value . More specifically you must be able to recognize your own value.

If you are genuinely resonating from a place of abundance opportunities will present themselves to you at every turn. However, when those opportunities show up if you have nothing of value to offer why would anyone give you their money?

Money is an energetic medium of exchange!

Here’s the real secret to understanding and creating abundance: People buy energy, whether it’s your personal energy in the form of a service you offer or your energy expressed through the product you create. They are always buying your energy.

Nothing is ever bought or sold beyond the desire for an experience we hope that energy will bring.

Think about Starbucks™ when they started out they sold coffee at about four times the price of their competitors. Why did anyone pay so much for that cup of frothy coffee? The simple answer was because they were not and never have sold ‘coffee’. What they sell is the energy of what they call “The third place experience” .

Starbucks™ wants you to think of their store as the third place you’d hang out at, (first being home, second being work). The Starbucks™ ‘third place’ philosophy is that of the show ‘Cheers’, the place you can go where everyone knows your name and your beverage of choice. They want you to go there because they were building the energy of it being ‘your’ third place.

So that brings us to the big question: What do you have to offer?

What is the unique value you bring to the world that people will line up at your door to give you money for?

I f you don’t know the answer, it’s because you are blind, (as are most people) to your own gifts. Right now, get out a pen and paper and write down the names of 5 people who know you well. Now write down the names of 5 people who know you, but not that well .

Now make a commitment to call or meet with each of them over the next 7 days. (If you spread it out too far it’s easy to become disconnected from what was said). Ask each of them to be totally honest and tell you what they see as your greatest strength. Ask each of them to tell you what they see as your personal genius blind spot. Take down every word you hear even if you have no interest in pursuing it, even if you think the person is completely wrong or crazy.

Collect the data, sift through it, look for common themes and design a product or service around what came out of your survey. What you come up with will be an expression of your inner genius and that my friend is the energy they want and they will be banging your door down to give you their money to get.

For more on creating the resonance a really attract what you want…

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I look forward to your feedback, and remember to stay open to recognizing your own genius.

Until next time, live with courage, Dov…

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We are in a time where many people are finding themselves asking deeper questions about their lives…

Questions like: What explanation have you had for your life being the way it is?
Pause for a second, take a deep breath, and really consider that question.

I’m not only referring to the difficulties in your life, I’m also referring to where your life is fantastic. Let me clarify. I’m talking about all of it; your life as a package.

…Maybe you feel you are where you are due to fate. Maybe as you ask that question you hear a voice in your head that tells you, you are lucky; or unlucky. Do either of those statements truly serve as satisfactory explanations as to why your life is the way it is?

Maybe the way you see it is that you got to where you are in life through something called Karma; that God is some kind of mega-accountant in the sky who does yearly, monthly, weekly, and daily tallies of all your good and bad deeds (or was that Santa?). Then, this magnificent accounting god dishes out the luck, both good and bad, in accordance with what’s in your good/bad account.

Does this sound ludicrous to you? Great, now we’re on the same page.

If those reasons are not how you get what shows up in your life, then maybe this concept (which I’m sure you’ve heard before) is the correct one: “Let us create mankind in our own image.”

Over the last twenty plus years of teaching workshops, seminars and working with people one-on-one it has become very obvious that…

The outer circumstances of your life are a direct result of the inner state of your being.

One of the most important things you will ever learn about success, whatever that means to you, is that what’s going on inside your thoughts and feeling ends up showing up outside, in your reality.

We are not victims of circumstance…

We are both the one who manufacturers and experiences these circumstances.

No one magically finds themselves in a divorce court, a prison cell or having a bullet removed with it being a result of something that was going on within them.

These events are a direct result of all the beliefs, thoughts, emotions feelings and behaviors you have had up to that point. That doesn’t make you wrong or right, what it makes you is either paying attention or being ignorant of what’s been going on inside you. Either way, it’s your choice, it’s your result.

I look forward to your comments and feedback.
Until next time, Live with Courage, Dov…

P.S. This posting is an excerpt from my new book: “Don’t Read This…your ego won’t like it”

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