If you don’t feel worthy, if you are carrying shame that was put on you, or you put on yourself, there’s a good chance that you are resonating at a level of being worthless. The result will be that whatever you do for income will likely be a way for you to give of yourself away too cheaply.  This of course is another powerful qualifier of your lack of value and your ego-mind gets to be right, telling you that you’re a victim, and it’s not your fault, there’s nothing you can do about ‘it’.

Bull!

It’s time to step up: Deal with the guilt, shame, and crappy self worth; you are not a victim, unless you decide that’s what you are.

Start by making the decision to forgive yourself, and while you’re at it consider all the people you need to forgive because that’s not adding anything good to your resonance field either.

Very Important Point: Having read the last paragraph again I need to make something crystal clear:

Do not believe all the crap you’ve been feed about forgiving everyone else first, that ‘forgiveness is a holy path’. Here’s why most of the people I’ve met who are preaching this kind of fertilizer are by enlarge emotionally shut down, full of  buried resentment, topped off with a plastic smile.

That my friends is not, never will be, forgiveness.

I do agree that forgiveness can be a holy path, however, it needs to be ‘healthy forgiveness.’

Healthy Forgiveness has a very important level of accountability. In order to truly forgive we must first take full accountability for our part in whatever it was, (That doesn’t mean finding a new reason to beat the crap out of yourself) as well as seeing ‘their’ part in it.

Bottom line; not forgiving doesn’t help you or anyone else, but know this; healthy forgiveness has nothing to do with forgetting. And in truth:

There is no real forgiveness of another until we learn to forgive ourselves. ~Dõv Baron

Carrying around all that guilt, shame and resentment is like carrying an anti abundance shield, so take my advice and dump it like a bad enchilada. It’s up to you, what I want you to know whether you believe it or not, whether you are experiencing it or not, this is an abundant universe.  So drop your abundance shield, forgive yourself and decide what you need to do next. Or to put it another way:

Forgive and Let The Abundance Flow!

I look forward to your comments and feedback.

Until next time live with courage, Dov…

That being the case it’s certainly worth our examining the relational foundation of life.  Look, you know as well as I do that almost everyone who has ever been through a relationship will have quite naturally gone through a break-up.  That being said, it’s in your best interest to consider what part you played in the relationship’s end, and when I say relationship break ups,  I am in no way limiting that to romantic relationships.

So, let’s briefly go on a voyage of discovery and peek inside the minds of the people around us for some real life examples of some of the limiting beliefs and behaviors that directly affect relationships.

There’s a good chance that you know at least a handful of people who feel that the people they are surrounded with are not really there for them. You know what I mean, right? You get the impression that they hear what you are saying, but aren’t really listening — that they ‘don’t get you‘.

Maybe sometimes you might feel that you can’t be honest with the people around you because you’re afraid that if you spoke your truth you may hurt their feelings, or end up getting hurt yourself.

I’m curious; have you ever considered how many people are afraid of being honest with themselves because they are scared stiff that the truth would be to painful to face?

Why can it so often be so hard to have honest relationships even with ourselves? Well, keep reading I’ll get to it in a moment, but first….

Let me be straight with you: Relationship, as I said earlier is one of the great foundations of life, and if we don’t master that foundation there is always a sense that something is missing.

One sure-fire way to tell that you have not mastered your relational foundation of life is if you’ve ever felt a certain ‘disconnection’ from the people who surround you. Moreover, there’s a strange feeling that many of your relationships are actually based on obligation — a sense that you must participate ‘or else’– rather than a conscious choice, and this is a massive sign that your relational foundation is out of whack.

I’m sure you can feel that, the people we surround ourselves with have a profound effect on every aspect of our lives, that we are a part of a collective consciousness. Those who surround us affect many areas we don’t consciously think about, including, but not limited too; how we feel about ourselves, how we feel about our circumstances, the decisions we make and what we end up believing we deserve and therefore what we attract into our lives.

One of the most challenging things we can face, is to be on a path of consciousness while having no conscious community…

It’s like trying to stay sober while living in the pub.

To stay committed and connected to your life’s purpose you must surround yourself with a conscious community who get you and also get why personal growth is so important. That community needs to have a collective consciousness that upholds you in a safe place to grow.

This of course is why Baron Mastery University.com was built.  (In case you don’t know, for a short time we are opening the doors to Baron Mastery University.com to invite other conscious and growth oriented individuals in. Just send an email to admin-at-baronmastery.com and put “requesting a BMU.com invitation”  in the subject line.

Back to the Relational Foundation: One of the liberating benefits of mastering your relational foundation is that you happen to find yourself constantly surrounded by loving people who love you: people you respect deeply, and in turn, people who deeply respect you. By mastering your relational foundation you will establish healthy boundaries with everyone around you. You will also have the kind of honest relationships you’ve always wanted with both yourself and with others.

Take a breath because here’s the deal:

Once you are the master of your ego-mind’s fixed ideas about relationships…  you are not willing to put up with any crap!

When you have mastered the relational foundation of life; you don’t put up with being pushed around, and you don’t put up with people trampling all over your boundaries! Not only do you confidently speak your truth, you speak it while being open and compassionately able to hear someone else’s truth without the fear of hurting anyone and without the fear of being personally rejected!

Now come on, be honest, how does that sound? Tell me, how bad do you want to be able to do that and be that way?

One final staggering comment on this foundation. By mastering your relational foundation, you learn to eliminate all fear in relationships so that you can experience love in its fullest form. Need I say more?

Once again this piece is based on The relational foundation of life as featured in my book… “Don’t Read This…your ego won’t like it!” (Which you can find by clicking on the products tab above)

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Until next time live with courage, Dov…

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Here are some things to think and feel about…

 What if the sh*t is a gift?

What if what’s going on right now in your life is the greatest gift you could have ever imagined, however there is no way for you to know it for at least 3,6, 12 or 36 months from now?

What if the heat of your situation is what is needed to hatch your dream?

What if ‘this’ hatches a passion within you that under any other circumstances you couldn’t have seen let alone embraced?

What if ‘this’ was is a game you play with yourself?

What if this become your best way to let go of what you no longer needed?

What if this is all a lesson in learning to trust yourself?

What if all this is simply to have you see what really matters?

What if this is your wake up call?

And what if you woke up?  What would you be waking up from?  What would you be awakening into?

What if you’ve been so focused on what might happen that you’ve blinded yourself to what is happening that’s great.

What if in truth this is a precious jewel wrapped in crap? Would you be willing to take the chance of getting your hands a little dirty in order to really find and recognize that jewel?

As I said: I have no intention of minimizing your pain, (whatever it is) I’m just offering a mental adjustment for those who are interested.

So, What if the sh*t is the gift that causes your shift?

Until next time, live with courage, Dov…

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Let me ask you: When the door of 2009 opens will you be hiding in a corner afraid of what’s on the way? Will you be there with running shoes on ready to bolt into a new year? Or will you step over the line, feeling your foot come down into the certainty of where you will ride this Ox of a year, because you have, in advance, taken the time to decide the direction of your 2009 .

Almost everyone gets some level of excitement at the prospect of a New Year, (even if it’s just as a reprieve from the last one). However; entering into anything with merely “hope”, Is a lot less than a plan for success.

What are your Goals and New Year’s Resolutions for 2009 ?  Whether your goals and resolutions are in the areas of finances, health and fitness, career, or relationships, the question worth asking yourself is: Do you actually want to keep yours this year? What if there was a simpler, effortless way to do that?  What if it were as easy as listening to some CDs and writing down your goals? Would you do it?

Before you say it could not possibly be that easy, know this:

You’re Right!

It doesn’t matter how many times you put my Resonating Riches CD program , or EFM Audio Technology or for that matter any program into the CD player, just listening is not ever going to be enough!

But part of what gets in the way of people’s success is that they come to believe that accomplishing goals has to be hard, it has to hurt . However, as thousands have experienced before you, with the right guidance, nothing could be further from the truth.

Please keep reading to understand how and why…

I want to help you keep your resolutions this year and avoid the disillusion that comes from setting half-assed goals and resolutions that don’t really matter, and in fact stand in the way of your complete authentic and joyous success.

As I spoke about in my last post; it’s important to pay attention to our rituals . Much of what we do, we do ritualistically. We do things over and over again and we do them to invoke an outcome . Whether that outcome is a change in our mind state that leads to a hangover or one that leads to greater and greater levels of success , all rituals are about invoking a “preferred state change” either within ourselves or our reality.

There are personal and societal rituals that we make personal. One of those society rituals has been to set “New Years Resolutions .” The purpose of which has been to invoke a “preferred state change” either within ourselves or our reality.

Sadly, all too often many people think that their looks, talents and simply making the resolution will be enough to propel them to higher ground. All too often these are the people whose ”wishful thinking” will have them do little more than splutter over the starter line.

The fact is: Nothing is more common than unsuccessful individuals brimming with talent.

If you have ever set a New Years Resolution or you know people who have, you are probably wondering: Why do so many people fail when it comes to fulfilling their New Years Resolutions?

The #1Reason: First and foremost without even realizing it… Most people are setting goals and making resolutions that are not their own!

I can not make this more simple and I know it seems obvious: Whatever goals or resolutions you set for 2009 make sure they are your own!

Quite simply, take a minute or two and really question your goals and your resolutions… Are they really about you, (who you really are)?  Or are they the goals and resolutions you are setting in order to be liked a little more by your brothers, sisters, friends, bosses, peers, or even mom and dad?

(By the way, to your ego mind approval is golden, so anyone’s will do).

The fact is, anyone can come up with a set of goals and resolutions that sound right. But it’s worth checking with yourself to truly find out if they are goals and resolutions aimed at getting approval rather than truly making you happy.

If you are unconsciously setting goals or resolutions that are not in resonance with who you really are, you are likely to find a way to not reach them or at the very least sabotage the process of reaching them.

See for yourself..: A few years ago I was working with a guy we’ll call Paul. Paul at that time was a successful corporate Vice President , who had a goal to buy a particular model of a new Mercedes .

I helped him to get absolutely clear on the specifics of what he wanted: model, year, color of both the exterior and interior and many other details that would make it absolutely real for him. By the time we were done, he could describe the exact sound the air made as it left when the car door closed.

Paul’s ’goal’ was to get the car by March 1st. This was something that was a stretch, but with everything in place it was definitely doable.  March 1st came and went, as did the entire month, and then April and May. When I asked him why he thought he had not manifested what he wanted, he gave me a long list of what he called ‘reasons’ and I called ‘excuses’.

My statement to him was that ‘it’ (the car), clearly didn’t matter enough to him. If it did, he would have done whatever it took to have gotten the car. Paul wanted to argue about it, until I asked him the question I’m now asking you:

Who’s approval do you make up you will get by achieving this goal?

It was like I’d slapped Paul in the face with a wet cod . He was stunned by the list of names that fell out of his mouth. There was a guy at work who had made a snide comment about how he thought Paul was doing better than to be driving what he was presently driving. There was his dad, who had always wanted a Mercedes but had never been able to afford one. There was even some woman he had the hots for ten years ago; she thought Mercedes were sexy.

Do you get it?

Sure, Paul ‘liked’ Mercedes and he certainly wouldn’t mind driving one. But, in truth, there was no genuine passion there ; it was not something that mattered enough to him. The reason Paul didn’t manifest what he ‘desired’ was there was no personal juice to fuel what it would take to bring that thing into his life.

Paul, like most people, had unconsciously set a goal that was more about ‘what other people would think’ than it was about what he truly, soulfully wanted .

If you’re on a few “Self-Help” lists, you’re probably getting a lot of input on how to ‘properly’ set goals for 2009 . I am sure they are all full of great stuff, but here are the basics: It is important to have a goal written down. Goals in your head tend to mutate into things that, A) we will never reach or B) we’ll just settle for.

In the words of Mark Victor Hansen (co-author of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series)

“Don’t Just Think It, Ink It!”

Listen, this coming year, I predict , will be a defining year for so many people. I believe It will be a year where you will need a better plan, more commitment and a heck of a lot more flexibility . For that reason it is equally important to make your goals and resolutions totally and absolutely have deep personal meaning . When you make that goal or resolution, be specific!

Go into the details , get all your senses involved … What would it look like , sound like, smell like, taste like, feel like to touch , and most important of all what would it feel like, to have ‘it’ in your life?

Whether it’s a goal or a resolution, ask yourself:
• What would my life look like having met this goal/resolution?
• Having met this goal/resolution what do I hear around me?
• What do I smell?
• What is the taste in my mouth?
• What am I touching now that lets me know I have fulfilled my resolution?
• What does it feel like to know I have become what I have resolved to become?

Now that I’ve given you some of the reasons why so many people fail at achieving their goals , let’s get into the next powerful tip that makes achieving your goals and resolutions a certainty:

Take out a sheet of paper, (I find there is a deeper emotional connection when we write by hand).

Write down as many reasons as you can about “why” you deeply want this specific goal or resolution.

What is it that makes having this in your life so important to you?

If you can’t get emotionally charged by what it is you are going for, chances are you will find a way to NOT get it!

It is this directed emotion that sets up the quantum resonance wave that draws to you every opportunity to fulfill your desire . The drive to keep going, to accomplish your goal or resolution is not in the thing itself, it’s the “reasons why” that will power you through the obstac les, (and there will be obstacles, make no mistake).

So, whether it’s personal , business , health, relationship , make the goal specific, and emotionally charged , because that’s what creates compelling goals that pull you towards what you want and what you want towards you!

So having gone through this Resolution Blueprint let me ask you to remember:

Whatever you dream of having in life… more money, more romantic and fun relationships, a booming business or fulfilling career… whatever it is… start your journey today toward making your New Years Resolutions and Goals a reality in 2009.

Start now!

Take out your pen and paper and begin applying what I’ve given you in this blueprint that Makes Achieving Your Goals and resolutions a Certainty .

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I look forward to seeing you in 2009.

With Gratitude,

Dov…

Well the answer is “Yes” because: On December 9th 2008 “we” made history! That was the day that not only did we do a worlds first, but it was also the day that you assisted me in fulfilling a commitment I made not only to myself and those close to me, but also one I have made publically for many years…

Year after year I have stood on the platform with a mind and a heart that is full and excited to spill over sharing not only my widely accumulated knowledge but also my mission.

It’s a mission that can seem vague, (if you don’t get it) but non-the-less one that I am deeply connected and committed to. That mission has been and will continue to be to… Raise Global Consciousness. To have each and every individual become aware and embrace the brilliance of whom they truly are.

I have said for years that there are two main themes through which I teach: Resonance & Relationship.

It is my belief, (not necessarily the truth) that the results of our life are the results of our Resonance and our Relationship.

The relationships we have ultimately determine not only how we see ourselves but also how we see the world.

Relationships Are The Backbone of All Beliefs 

Ponder this: The world is run based on varying sets of beliefs and relationships are the backbone of all belief. Think about it: how did you come to believe anything? The answer is obvious when you now stop and think about it: You came to believe what you at least initially came to believe, because you were in a relationship with someone who directly or indirectly gave you an opinion and from those opinions you formed beliefs.

Consciously and unconsciously, our beliefs dominate our thoughts and the feelings that they bring up. The result is that those thoughts and feelings become what we resonate out to the universe. And what we resonate we attract.

To grossly over simplify it:

What we resonate, we attract as relationship, and what we attract as relationship determines what we resonate.

On December 9th 2008 we did the world’s first one man 24 hour web-a-thon at http://ResonatingRiches.com/24-broadcast to raise money for the Oxfam Charity. We successfully raised thousands of dollars.

However, something unexpected happed: We received interaction in the form of donations, questions, and passionate comments from people around the world who said things like “it was addictive and very hard to turn off”. Many commented on how much positive impact the http://ResonatingRiches.com/24-broadcast had had on them.

One gentleman from (I think it was Singapore) who said he had been working with a number of teachers and in just two answers to the questions that he had sent in, I had cleared up what he had been working on for 6 years.

We had people watching and writing in from all around the world: Singapore, Canada, England, New Zealand, Rumania, Portugal, Australia, Italy, Israel, India, France, Germany, South Africa, Denmark, Sweden, and The USA, just to name a few.

The point is we set out to raise money for the Oxfam charity and ended up raising global consciousness  and it was all done through building relationships.

In order to continue building those relationships I have decided to leave the www.ResonatingRiches.com  free video classes up on line for you and your friends as my way of saying thank you for our relationship.

As I said; “we” made history because through our relationships we came together and raised global consciousness. I look forward to building our relationship and I’m excited to see who you introduce to me next.

I look forward to reading your comments and feedback below.

With Gratitude for our relationship, Dov…