Valentines is on the way DON’T SCREAM!

Great love and relationships are not built on special occasion flowers, chocolates and great sex alone. 

Sure those things don’t go amiss… however if you are delivering as a special occasion band aid’s that you hope will put you in favor, you should know they are more likely to put you in the dog house.

Did you know: Research shows that many long term relationship come to a crashing halt on Valentines day.  The words may or may not be spoken on that day however, the wheels of the emotional divorce have already began to roll into motion.

In a recent survey more than 80% of the men whose wives asked for a divorce say; they are totally shocked,

they had NO IDEA…

These guys were happy in the same marriage their wife wanted out of!

 

What does that mean?  Maybe someones not speaking clearly enough, and maybe someones not listening well enough?

Whether we are aware of it or not, we all have a deep and natural craving to feel special to someone else.   Someone who sees us in ways that we wish we could see ourselves.

Very often that’s a big part of why we fall in love…they made you see yourself beyond the limited framework you had held of yourself,  and for that time you began to allow yourself to feel the truth of it.

Whether you are alone or coupled at Valentines, it won’t matter if you don’t have a healthy model for recognizing what you want when it shows up and the skills and tools to keep it…

Below is a video gift I have set up for you, because if you really want your relationship to go to the next level of depth and connection I would highly suggest that you take a look  at applying:

 

“The 5 Foundations of Building Healthy, Loving Relationships”

Enjoy and please feel free to share this with your friends and leave your feedback.

Happy Valentines:

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From the hallway I could hear the muffled sound of the TV in the other room. Curiosity pulled me into that room to find my mother watching our old black and white set. I glanced at the set where I saw a man I didn’t recognize speaking in a way that commanded my attention.  As compelling as this man was, there was something else going on in that room that had an even stronger pull… my mother.

Looking over at my mom I saw her dislodge her glasses upwards as she wiped a steady stream of tears from her eyes. I had seen my mother cry many times. To be honest at that point in our lives there seemed to be an abundance of reasons for my mom to be in tears, but this was different.

As a ten year old boy seeing my mother cry was something that always disturbed me. I walked over, put my hand on my mom’s shoulder and in an attempt to comfort her I asked what was wrong. Looking up at me, she tried to smile but it clearly wasn’t working. She stumbled for words and pointed at the TV saying: “He’s dead?” I looked back at the set and the powerful charismatic presence of Martin Luther King Jr. rang out like a bell in the fog.

I was a boy living in a ghetto environment of a dirty industrial town in England, I had no idea why my mother would be crying about a man I didn’t think I’d ever seen before. I didn’t recognize him as a movie star, a pop star or even a British politician. Why was she crying? In my boyish naivety I asked “who is he?” My mom said; “that’s Martin Luther King, someone shot him.” I was still puzzled. My mom continued through a flood of tears and said; “He was a great man, and now he’s dead”.

I became fascinated with finding out who this man had been. I asked my uncle who I considered to be the smartest person I knew and he told me of Martin Luther King’s fight for civil rights; how Dr. King had followed Gandhi’s model of peaceful demonstrations. He told me of all the people black and white people alike who had stood by Dr. King’s side for the civil rights of all people.

April 4^th 1968 was the day I not only became politically aware, it was the day something within my very soul was awakened. I began to grasp the difference this man had made, the impact he had left as a legacy, not just for black people but for all people. That day I began to understand that one person can make a massive positive difference. That day as a naive 10 year old I decided that I wanted to have the same kind of massively powerful impact on humanity that Dr. King had had on humanity, including my mother a Jewish woman living in a place that might have been a million miles away.

I of course, had no idea how I could make that difference; and to be honest, it seemed impossible based on the “facts” of who I was and the environment that surrounded me. I just knew that day that something within me had changed and it would never be the same.

Many people have seen Dr. King’s message as a message about freedom for black people. To me, his message was much deeper than color or creed. It was about the understanding that we are all the same, that at a soul level we are all on a journey, and it’s important to remove the blocks to our spiritual, mental, and emotional evolution. Although we may perceive those blocks as being outside ourselves, the truth is that they would all instantly disappear if we would commit to removing the ones on the inside.

40 plus years ago something tragic happened, a great man, a man who will remain a giant, died. I still see some of the injustices he fought against. However, that tragic event gave birth to a flood of awaking and opportunities that has changed the world.

Dr. King’s message is, I believe, even stronger today than it was in the 60’s. Today is Martin Luther King day, it’s a day we can be sad for the loss of a great man, or a day we can rejoice for the difference he made that we benefit from, no matter what our colour or creed is. Martin Luther King the man is gone.  However, I believe it is the strength of our heart’s desire to become the magnificent beings we were born to be that keeps taking this world, (despite what the media feeds us), to a place of knowing, what I believe Dr King was trying to teach us… we are all one. Nothing, and I mean nothing, can separate us from the truth of who we truly are, not racial profiling, not extremists of any colour or religious belief, not even war. Because who we truly are is… A gift!

Remember this always:

You are a gift from the universe, and when you are truly willing to know it, you will become the gift to THE world that you were born to be.

When you let yourself truly know this, then it that moment you are, I believe, keeping Martin Luther King’s Dream Alive

Happy Martin Luther King Day.

Long live Dr. Martin Luther King, in all our hearts, minds, and actions.

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I look forward to your feedback and comments.

With gratitude,

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Thanksgiving; a wonderful opportunity to return to gratitude…  Love is Gratitude in Action

Isn’t it strange that we need an actual holiday to remind us to be thankful?

I know that many of you who read my articles don’t live in the US and for many, where you live there is no such holiday as ‘Thanksgiving’.  However, wherever you are in the world, please accept my gratitude as you read on you’ll know why I’m specifically talking to you .

I know that at this time of year you’re probably pretty busy however,  I think you will see that by investing a few minutes to read this article will prove well worth your time.
No matter what country you are living in, right now, let me ask you to be honest and answer this question:

How much time do you spend in genuine gratitude?

I’m sure you’ve noticed that very day there seems to be a million new things to do, every day it can seem difficult to slow down enough so you can catch a little down time.  Maybe you turn on the TV to unwind, only to once again be assaulted with the news of doom and gloom.

Most of the time, most people are running around like chickens with their heads cut off doing more and more, while feeling less and less connected, to themselves or anyone else.
The result is that most people are running on empty!
So, in a crazy hectic world what can we do to fill up a little?

Right now let me challenge you to STOP and take a moment to become aware of the blessings in your life.

There is a wonderful ‘new’ movement of interest in manifestation.
Perhaps you have read about it in my books or have heard me talk about it either at a workshop, my podcasts or in a tele-program: Quantum Resonance energy is the necessary ingredient for manifestation.  Well, one of the most powerful quantum energies for manifestation is gratitude.

Okay, you need to stop skimming for a moment and really take this in, because by gratitude I mean genuine heartfelt, preferably eyeball-to-eyeball or at least heart-to-heart connection. In other words, delivered with real meaning rather than some perfunctory…”thanks“.

Recognizing what you have and genuinely appreciating it does not have to be built on guilt or the complacency of ; ‘I don’t have the right to ask for more, I’m so much better off than those less fortunate’.

Genuine appreciation can come from stopping and considering all the things that go by each day that can so easily get taken for granted; the smile on a child’s face as they say ‘hello’ or ‘goodbye’ to you.

Getting a call from your partner, friend, sibling, or family member to genuinely ask how you are doing. Being able to breath and smelling the flowers or even coffee.

How about gratitude for having the strength to do what you need to and desire to do.  Or knowing there is someone, somewhere who loves you.  Receiving kindness, whether it was a smile, food, a kind word, a gentle kiss, or even this article.

I’ve been speaking around the world to thousands of people for many years now and I want to stop and say:

This Thanksgiving and everyday, I am grateful for you… Yes, I am talking to you!

If you’ve been following my work at all you already know that I have a dream…

My dream is to raise consciousness. Now you may be saying; “what the heck does that mean?”

Raising consciousness means being able to assist people all over the world in knowing that they are truly powerful, that you have the power to create the life that your heart and soul cries out to live.

I am truly grateful to you because through you I get to live my dream, my purpose, my mission. You, my friends, spiritual family, students and unstoppable team are the fuel that moves me forward. I know that I am the voice of something bigger than myself and you carry that voice

out into the world and in so doing, share in my mission, my dream, my purpose.  I am truly grateful because maybe, just maybe, I have had some influence in waking up your soul, in inspiring your heart, in letting you know you are truly magnificent!

I am grateful to you…You, who are committed to growth. You, who are no longer willing to settle for mediocrity. You, who stand up and fight to be free, even from the prison of your mind.

I believe that the education we offer at Baron Mastery Institute is a way out of the mental emotional jails we can lock ourselves in.

Thank you for inspiring me with your feedback, emails, phone calls, photos,  testimonials, courage, vulnerability and your stories of how your life has changed using the skills, tools and knowledge you received from us at Baron Mastery Institute.

I love taking the time to read and hear them all. They are all fuel in my tank to keep going.

Your work on yourself and your support of our collective mission keeps me believing we can raise the consciousness of this magnificent planet.

Thank you to my beloved bride, best friend and partner, the sweetness in my life and my guru of kindness, my inspiration: Renuka.
Each day I am grateful for her and for the work I did to clear my poop in order to attract this amazing woman into my life more than a decade ago.
Renuka, you are the light in my heart, my greatest inspiration and biggest supporter, you have held me when I could have been crushed and in that moment your love and strength kept me walking my path when I felt crippled…thank you!
May I suggest that once a year, maybe right now:

Take out your pen and journal and write a list of whom and what you are grateful for.

Once you have done that, I would suggest that you  go and buy some thank you cards and write notes of gratitude. At least send an email or make a phone call to those people. (I like cards because some people are uncomfortable taking in gratitude and nobody can interrupt or dismiss written words).

Someone said to me once “it must be wonderful to touch all these people’s lives”.  My reply was and still is that it is wonderful, however, what is equally wonderful is that you touch mine just as much.

Thank you from the depths of everything I am and all I can become.
I look forward to meeting you for the first time or seeing you again soon.

Remember; nothing can crush you unless you allow it…
Aspire to greatness for that is your true nature!
Your value far outweighs your circumstances.

With my love and sincere gratitude,
Dõv…

P.S. I look forward to reading your comments and feedback.

P.P.S. If you found this message valuable, feel free to send this to your friends.

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Earlier this week I posted a status on FaceBook that got some very interesting responses.

If you are on Facebook I’m sure you’ll agree that Facebook in its self is a rather fascinating ‘place’ or phenomena.

Originally, when certain people tried to get me on FB, I was resistant and now I have more than a couple of thousand ‘friends’. However, the question I have is do our FB ‘friends’ really know us? Do they even care about who we are, what matters to us, or even what we do?

When I posed the original question on FB so many of my  FB ‘friends’ shared wonderful kind words that touched my heart. I am so grateful to those who replied to my FB status question… I feel enormously honoured to be seen by you all and I deeply value our relationship. What was fascinating was that there were many people who I feel I know well who did not write anything, (of course they may never have seen my question). Just as surprising were all the wonderful comments I got from people I did not even know.
Many years ago I gave a presentation on: “Friends, when to hold them, when to fold them.” I like to share with you a portion of that presentation and you can let me know what you think and feel.

We have all heard people speak of ‘fair weather friends’. These are the people who are your friend in good times.  It is said that when you hit hard times ‘fair weather friends’ will move out faster than bugs from a burning mattress. Clearly it makes sense that if a friend is only there for the good times this isn’t much of a friend.

What I want to share with you are some other kinds of friends you may want to pay attention to, in particular ‘bad weather friends’. I know you’ve been told that real friends will stick with you in times of trouble, and although that is true there is a certain type of friend who is only really there for you in your bad times.

You can probably remember a time when you were in a crappy relationship and this particular friend was right there for you. They told you that s/he is a fool to let you go.  Or maybe you can remember a time when you were in serious financial ‘doo-doo’, and that certain friend was once again, right there for you, telling you that ‘they’ just don’t see your talents and skills.  In fact the worse things get the closer this kind of friend is. I can almost hear you say; “well what’s wrong with that?”

It’s not that there is something wrong with it, in fact I would agree that a ‘real friend’ would be there for you in such times.  As much as I highly suggest that you be in full gratitude for those who are genuinely there for you in such times of challenge. That being said; we may want to examine this kind of relationship with at least the same level of inquiry as that of a ‘fair weather friend’.

In the case of a ‘fair weather friend’ it’s pretty easy to see why the person is your friend, but have you ever considered why a ‘bad weather friend’ might be hanging out? Just as you might notice a ‘fair weather friend’ fade into the distance during tough times, a ‘bad weather friend’ will disappear during the good times, (particularly if the good times last).

At this point you may be wondering why a ‘bad weather friend’ would go away in good times, well the answer may surprise you. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying:

Misery Loves Company

There will always be these type of people in your life because at either a conscious or unconscious level they find that you being in the crapper allows them to feel better about themselves. A ‘bad weather friend’ is incredibly supportive when you are down however, when you are up, you are seen as a threat. They my even use the kind of language that will tell you what kind of friend they really are.  If they say:  “when you become successful, find a lover, get promoted, (or any other kind of status change) you won’t want to be around me anymore.” This is the language of a ‘bad weather friend’.

Good friends, real friends, are there for you in both the good and the bad times. When things are tough they will hold you and tell you what’s great about you. However, when you are wallowing they will kick your ass to get you going if that’s what it takes. This same good friend will be overjoyed for your success in any given area. They want the best for you even if it means that for you to be truly happy and fulfilled they could lose out.

Real friends want you to become all that you are at that soulful level of fulfilling your potential.

A real friend would rather walk away than support you playing small.

A real friend will lift you up so that you can describe the view ahead and in turn inspire them to go to the next level.

I said earlier that Misery Loves Company, well so does Joy! So…

Get yourself around those who are playing big in all areas, especially joy!

I am a blessed man in more ways than I can say here. However, one way I know this for certain is I am surrounded by “Real Friends”. Some I have known for years, some I have known for moments. Some are blood family, some are spiritual family. Some I have hugged and kissed with deep affection, some I know only via the electronic world of this blog, our members site at BaronMasteryUniversity.com, and some even through Facebook and Twitter.

However, we know each other, I thank you for being more than a ‘fair weather friend’ or a ‘bad weather friend’.

I am deeply grateful for each of you who lift me up upon your shoulders to shine a light out into the world.

Thank you for celebrating my success, and telling everyone you know about what I teach.

I look forward to your comments and feedback.
With sincere gratitude,  Dov…

P.S. I deep enjoyed the FaceBook responses, so I  have copied my question and some of the responses below as I thought you’d enjoy the wise and sometime funny insights:

My Question: Are we friends? If you do consider me a friend, please tell me why that is.

• Alexander Kozupytsya
  I heard a lot of good things about you plus you like Tom Jones! They say you’re the new Anthony Robbins….the self help buffs!

• Danielle-Nicole Lareau
  Because..you are me..and I like who you are..pure love and compassion my friend…ciao for now Dani

• Andrea Lachner.  Facebook (and My Space and Twitter LOL) has opened a whole new world to us – we can become ‘friends’ with people we’ve never met (and possibly never will meet) in person. Not to mention people in completely different time zones. Why do I become ‘friends’ with someone like you? Because you are inspiring!!! And I am always keen to read what you have for us to read & think about.
  I have learnt along the way that there are many different type of friends in our lives. There’s the ones that will always be in your life no matter where in the world we each end up. There are the ones that are friends to you only when they need you or when you yourself need them. Which is a paradox to the saying that some people are your friends only in the good times – yup, I know of people that are only your friend in bad times – weird huh? But nevertheless, every person we meet (in person or these days in cyberspace) has something to offer to our lives in some way or another.
  The word ‘friend’ has many more meanings and levels to it than just one or 2 words
  My 2 cents worth this early in the morning (for me) LOL…
  Love and light XX… Read More

• Krystal Pine
  I love you Dov because you are kind and considerate, but also, you have a backbone and stand up for the truth, you are gentle and honest.

• Rosally Saltsman
  Yes. A friend is someone you trust, who possesses qualities you admire, who shares things in common with you and with whom you feel an emotional or spiritual chemistry. A friend is someone whom you feel you can grow through or with and help them to grow as well. It isn’t unusual in today’s technology or higher spiritual awareness to have friends you’ve never met. It’s just hard to have friends you never see.

• Kim Dushinski… Yes, I consider you a friend because you have gone dog walking with me more times than you know. (Via my MP3 player, of course).

• Natalie Gibson
  Because you are who you are and you’re not afraid to show it, because you’re continually pushing your own growth at an exponential rate, because you are profoundly integral with yourself and with others, because you don’t bullshit me with social nice disease and because we laugh and have fun together. simple, really.

• Naseem Rahman
  We are born into our families and we are related to them by blood. Yet, there are some people who enter our lives for a reason and they become a part of our family, leaving a lasting impression on our lives. You are one such person in my life, Dov. You are my friend, my mentor,my guide and the voice of reason for me when the chips are down & I … feel cornered in a dark place. You are God’s gift to this universe, making it a better place to live. May the light of your enlightenment spread to places afar …You are simply the BEST….with Love Naseem

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