It’s easy to tell yourself that the emotional upheavals in your life are “all in the past”, yet the question remains: Are they really?

When you stop and think about it much of our daily experiences are nothing than the same past experiences playing out in a new senerio.

What we don’t look at actually controls us; Because it becomes the undercurrent of our personality. Just because “it” is in your past on a time line doesn’t mean that you have actually let “it” go. Here’s a quick exercise.

Think about the last time someone cut you off in traffic, or some other equally frustrating behaviour.

If you remember that you got way beyond mad … and into the range of pure outrage, that’s called a ‘disproportionate response.’

Simply put, it means that from an onlookers standpoint the incident might have rated a ‘3’ on an anger response scale; however, your reaction was more like a 6 or more.

And if you can’t remember a traffic incident, think of another time where you’ve become incredibly angry at the drop of a hat. (Even if, because you have become masterfull at stuffing it no one else would know).

Anytime that happens, it’s a reliable indicator that there’s other ‘stuff’ that you’re upset about. Being outraged at this driver is just a safe place to express what you don’t feel safe expressing in another situation.

Bottom line: If you are having disproportionate responses, your past is not in the past at all and until you deal with “it”, it’s running your life!

What we refuse to acknowledge about ourselves becomes the driving force for a destiny we may not desire.

Try this: Watch for disproportionate responses and ask yourself: “What might I be angry about that actually has nothing to do with this situation?”

There is magnificence within you… Who you are is so much greater than your history. However, until you look at your history you are destined to repeat it in one form or another.

Leave me your feedback, I want to know what you think.

In Gratitude, Dov…

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Going down …”Deeper”

I’m excited for everyone who’s already registered for the “Deep” telecasts; two things I can absolutely guarantee; One you’ve never been part of something like this before. And two, you’re going to get some life-changing perspective by completing this tele-series.
I’m already getting feedback from people who were on the live program telling me that they’ve already having breakthroughs and that even in the first module things are getting pretty “Deep”.
Don’t worry if you can’t be “live” on every call, I’m going to post the recording of each call for replay, so you can listen to it when you’re able to. (However, there are many advantages to being on the live tel-casts). Because you will want to give these modules your full attention many people like yourself listen back a couple of times in order to dig and go “Deeper”.
In fact, the tele-series constitutes the first three modules of the “DEEP” workshop, and must be completed by all workshop participants.
So whether you’re able to attend in person or not, you’re able to “eavesdrop” on the first three modules.
It’s my gift to you.
Here are the tele-cast dates, each will be held at 7:15 pm PST (10: 15 pm EST):
Module #1: Monday July 7th : Replay is now up at www.DeepAuthenticSelf.com
Module #2: Monday July 14th
Module #3: Monday July 21th
IMPORTANT!:I’ve also made a link for you to a downloadable PDF of the home assignment questions.
If you haven’t registered, click this link www.DeepAuthenticSelf.com
See you on the next exciting instalment of “Deep”
With Gratitude, Dov…

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In a recent post I stated that;

“Most people’s lives are nothing more than the realization of a promise they made to themselves”

Let’s take this a little deeper…

These promises that we made to ourselves were in all likelihood ‘unconsciously’ chosen and chances are you made them when you were very young. (Although as you read this you may have had a ‘light bulb moment’ and realized exactly when you made your promise and why you did it).

I spend a lot of my time teaching people how to create thier reality. However, what I also say is that most people are creating their realty at a very unconscious level. In fact many of them only get conscious of ‘creating reality’ when something different shows up and they quickly scramble to get things back to “normal”.

Now there’s that fascinating word: “Normal”. For most people reading this you are bright enough to realize that normal is at least somewhat subjective. I n that what’s normal for you may not be normal at all for someone living on a different continent in a completely different culture.

However, ‘normal’ goes much “Deeper” than that. Most people without even knowing it, for the most part are unconsciously busy doing their best to keep things normal. But again please note; the normal I’m speaking about is your own version of normal.

For some people when I say normal they think of the suburban family with two point five kids, a white picket fence and an minivan. But that’s not the kind of normal I am discussing here.

What I’m referring to is your own particular brand of normal. Have you ever heard the saying: “Situation Normal All F*%ked Up?” Well for some people that kind of situation is as indicated, their own brand of ‘normal’. Normal is relative to the individual, as normal as church on Sunday is to one person, smoking crack is to another.

So here’s my challenge to you to bathe in these questions for a while…

What have you made normal that might not be healthy? And…

What promise might you have made to yourself that without you realizing it, is in fact keeping your life pretty much the same as it was?

If you really want to dig deeper on this go and have a look at www.DeepAuthenticSelf.com

Post a comment and let me know what you think.

Dov…

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