How did my life turn out like this?

March 28, 2009 | Comments | featured, law of attraction, mind power, personal development, psychology

We are in a time where many people are finding themselves asking deeper questions about their lives…

Questions like: What explanation have you had for your life being the way it is?
Pause for a second, take a deep breath, and really consider that question.

I’m not only referring to the difficulties in your life, I’m also referring to where your life is fantastic. Let me clarify. I’m talking about all of it; your life as a package.

…Maybe you feel you are where you are due to fate. Maybe as you ask that question you hear a voice in your head that tells you, you are lucky; or unlucky. Do either of those statements truly serve as satisfactory explanations as to why your life is the way it is?

Maybe the way you see it is that you got to where you are in life through something called Karma; that God is some kind of mega-accountant in the sky who does yearly, monthly, weekly, and daily tallies of all your good and bad deeds (or was that Santa?). Then, this magnificent accounting god dishes out the luck, both good and bad, in accordance with what’s in your good/bad account.

Does this sound ludicrous to you? Great, now we’re on the same page.

If those reasons are not how you get what shows up in your life, then maybe this concept (which I’m sure you’ve heard before) is the correct one: “Let us create mankind in our own image.”

Over the last twenty plus years of teaching workshops, seminars and working with people one-on-one it has become very obvious that…

The outer circumstances of your life are a direct result of the inner state of your being.

One of the most important things you will ever learn about success, whatever that means to you, is that what’s going on inside your thoughts and feeling ends up showing up outside, in your reality.

We are not victims of circumstance…

We are both the one who manufacturers and experiences these circumstances.

No one magically finds themselves in a divorce court, a prison cell or having a bullet removed with it being a result of something that was going on within them.

These events are a direct result of all the beliefs, thoughts, emotions feelings and behaviors you have had up to that point. That doesn’t make you wrong or right, what it makes you is either paying attention or being ignorant of what’s been going on inside you. Either way, it’s your choice, it’s your result.

I look forward to your comments and feedback.
Until next time, Live with Courage, Dov…

P.S. This posting is an excerpt from my new book: “Don’t Read This…your ego won’t like it”

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Shaun

I sense for me that my package of life is as it is now ultimately as a result of my conditioned beliefs from my environment growing up plus the aspects of my self that seem to cultivate my own chosen beliefs as I go along that attract different results where I become more than just a product of environment I begun in.

I honestly do not know why some beliefs seem purely created from my own self and others adopted and running unconsciously. It is a package of conditioning and pure wonder of why I ask myself questions that take me in different directions to what conditioning would suggest likely.

It is quite clear to me in going through Resonating Riches CD's that some beliefs have deeper roots and not easily uprooted as I would like to imagine. It is eye opener that even when being on the path to be a conscious manifestor there is much inner work to do to uproot beliefs that not even aware exist that do not serve. This is not easy work cultivating empowering beliefs when some conditioning is running counter to desires that seem irrational. It is a work in progress. It is the only way to go though for creating what we truly desire from our deepest core.

My explanation is I am at cause for all the good and not so good results but pinpointing exactly why some things unfold as they do is not always easy to identify. I think this is because as much as we like to be self-aware there is much below the surface of ourself we do not know of ourself.

Tonight I spent a few hours with quite a few family members so it is timely to ponder on for me. I sense some of how my father and older siblings would have had an effect on the feel for how I perceive and be in the world to this point of life but I also realise also there are differences in they way we think and feel that are not easily explainable why I feel differently. Some stuff in life just seems a mystery why we cultivate differences to what we were conditioned to growing up.

I'm so glad to have cultivated enough awareness and wonder to this point to discover a few mentors I admire and think I can learn so much more from about creating more consciously of what I desire for my life and others I can grow with along the way.

All the mediums of sharing you create Dov to help are precious to learn from and begin to apply. There is so much more for me to do. It is exciting being alive in these times we do.

Thank you Dov for being such a fantastic teacher with a wonderful mind and big heart.

Andrea Johnson

Hi Dov,

Great question. My life?
I had lived in that existence for so long that it is so easy just to fall back on what is easy, known and familiar. It has to be a conscious choice everyday not to fall into the trap of that existence. I am still working on this every day when I wake up.
People ask, “What would you change if given the chance?” When you take the time to think, really think, even with all the crap, all the hurt, all the disappointments and betrayals, the answer is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!
If I changed anything in my past I would not be where and who I am right now. I am learning to really LOVE MYSELF! I would not have all the wonderful people in my life that I do. I would not have my babies and grandbaby. Those same people would say you would have children. My answer is – NOT THOSE CHILDREN! Change one thing – and you are on a totally different path.
The possibility on not having the people I do in my life today, right at this moment, is inconceivable.
I chose my path, that was not an easy admission to make – but it was the best I could do with the knowledge I had at that time. Now I choose a new path, a better path!

Thank you Dov

Ehab

Dov,

Thank you so much for the human being you are. I respect you and bow before you. Your words resonate deep down inside me. Yet I would love to know more about your own experience. I would love to know how did Dov transform from being the person he was in Northern England to Dov he is right now. What did Dov do? What inspirations did he have? Whom did he meet? What were his failures? What were his successes? How did he fail even after he succeeded? How did he stood up again and pursued his path and success? I believe in a lot of the writings of Dov, but I miss what is beyond the experience Dov is talking about. I know Dov is truthful, but what are the premises of this truth...

Thank you so much

Rich Russell

I absolutely agree that we are responsible for where we are in life. The problem is that you can't be responsible for what you are not aware of and so much of what is going on internally is outside of our awareness.

Our first job is to discover how we are deleting, distorting and generalizing the input we get so that it agrees with what we already believe and learn to change the pattern to one that serves us better.

Regards

Rich

oliver cooper

Hey Dov,

another great piece of deep and thought provoking writing from you. Looking forward to reading your book when it comes out :).

Ollie

Naseem Rahman

About 6 years ago, if someone had asked me the question"What explanation have you had for your life being the way it is, I would have said "I am a victim of circumstances" I would have said " I deserved better". I felt sorry for myself as I became more and more comfortable each day wearing a Victim's mask.

Today, if you were to ask me the same question, I would say very proudly "Each place along the way is somewhere I had to be, in order to be here". I am no longer standing in the way of my own progress and this is simply a result of being AWARE of what areas of my life I have had the power to change...an art I say, I learnt from you Dov.

Learning to forgive myself and realizing that sometimes it is okay to take one step backward in order to take 100 steps forward is all part of the growth process. I truly deserve to be where I am in this stage of my life today......Free on all counts!!!

Thank you Dov for helping me understand that it was necessary for me to be "there" in order to be "here".

With Love & Gratitude
Naseem

Kevin Connolly

Interesting blog.
I wish I could say my life turned out this way because______________. In fact at first read my first temptation was to use a form of "I know that" in agreement to what you wrote, but I realized, in the same instant, that I really don't.

So for the time being, knowing that I am less hampered today by the ego than I was yesterday and hopefully again less tomorrow, I will keep my mind open. Open to the idea that learning what I've learned thus far is but only a taste of truth and open to the idea that where I've traveled thus far is but a prerequisite to the real journey.

Lady Lisa

Dearest Dov,
Wow...I am revelling in the space around the magnificence, literally, of your words, and their meaning.
It was just the other day that I was contemplating how I had perceived myself, for so many years, to be a victim of life, of circumstance, and in so perceiving, I had no power, no choice, no freedom....

Now, perceiving that I am able to observe and connect with what lies within the deepest part of me, and accepting responsibility that this is what resonates and attracts whatever happens in my life, I say to myself, "Surely, I am not content to remain a victim of circumstance! Rather, I would dictate the circumstances! I will determine my own circumstance because I will resonate something better!"

The awareness, which you have given me, is the greatest gift, for, in becoming the observer, I am then able to contemplate what it is that I would truly like to attract and have in my life.
Truly, there are major resonances that are old, conditioned and no longer relevant in my life. With the power you suggest to me, and that I then realize in myself, and throughout this process, remaining the "observer", I see the potentional, the power, the opportunities in every moment of my life...
I send you Gratitude.
Lady Lisa

Doreen

Dov,

So deep I seem to go. So beyond I seem to reach.
Reading your blog and inspired I am to write:

What is the explanation of why my Life is what It is?

And when I pause and contemplate this question the only
explanation I come up with is:

I am what I think I am.
Plain and simple.
Straight to the point.

For I am the Creator of It all.

The Bad.
The Good.
The Ugly.
The Beautiful.
The Chaos.
The Peace.
The Misfortune.
The Fortunate.

What I choose to think about is who It is I am.
It's what I will experience in this Life I choose to Live.

And we are all in charge of what we choose to think about.

For there will always be negative.
There will always be positive.

And what you focus on will come out in the words that you speak.

And words are so Powerful.

They create your experiences.
In this Life you choose to Live.

And It's really, at first not as easy as you think. Yet as you move along getting easier as you step another step as you breath another breath. Paying close attention to the thoughts that you choose to think.

For eventually this is what your world will Be.
What you choose to think?

Recreating Reality
In this Life I choose to Live.

And If I don't like what is set before me, I am always given the means to just choose again another thought.
For that will Be who It is I am. Why I came, when I did. What and where I am, in a mind, within a mind, In Love with Life.

I am...

Dov Baron – Mind Mastery