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By: Shaun

Shaun — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 03:59:04 +0000

Thanks Dov. That truly is a very thought provoking post to say the least.

I think I will revisit parts of this blog posting many times as there is so much in it of value that cannot expect to gain these gifts deeply enough the first few times.

“Returning to a deeper place of love”

That I intend to explore further

Not surprised it can hit some nerves…

By: Dov Baron

Dov Baron — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 01:06:21 +0000

Hello Bruno,
Well my friend it seems we hit a nerve? And I have to say that I agree with your sentiments at least in reference to how we are supposed to know how to love ourselves. You’re right, if a person has never had a healthy model for love, loving ones self can seem quite ridiculous.

May I suggest that if you don’t have a model for loving yourself you instead look at the elements of love you can comprehend? EG: Gratitude. What in your life could you be grateful for? It doesn’t have to be anything grand; it could be as simple as walking or breathing without assistance.

Let me share something that I think you really want to know. Most people didn’t have a healthy model for love, a very large amount of us went through some kind of abusive situations and often on a regular basis. Although this is both outrageous and sad, it is what it is.

What I would suggest to you is that those who recover are those who discover the one true element of healthy self love: Self Respect. What is it about you that truly deserves respect? And more importantly how can you show higher and higher levels of self respect to yourself?

Just because “they” say you weren’t wanted doesn’t mean you are without value. In fact many of the people who made a massive difference in the world started their lives out being dropped off on other people’s doorsteps.

I agree that it seems a strange world where we must have a license for an animal, we are free to bring children into the world without any such thing including basic training.

What I can tell you is despite what you think, love exists even for the “unlovable” and what’s more there are those who love you if you will just allow yourself to see it and feel it.

With sincere compassion I challenge you to live with the courage to love, Dov…

By: Cate Ferguson

Cate Ferguson — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 10:42:35 +0000

Love yourself as your very own soul mate, what a wonderful ideal.

When I team that idea with the idea that everything we ever need already resides within us, I realise the perfection of both thoughts.

AnamCara is the old Celtic way of saying such a thing as soul mate )Anam (Soul) Cara (Friend) – I have named my property this as it will sustain me and me it.

Thank you so much for this post, it reminds me to treat myself well, love myself and in doing so allow myself to love and be loved.

By: bruno

bruno — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 14:38:56 +0000

yet more guilt.
“oh you have to love yourself first”
well all *I* was ever taught never taught me any “love” of any kind
how do you BE what you cannot even COMPREHEND? and that nobody will show you or teach you.
I was punished to be BORN here
punished to grow up here
punished to try to share anything good
and punished if i speak in honesty
where is there “love” in any of that?

so all i get is MORE guilt to sit here MORE unwanted and unknowing since all there is is this big HUGE guilt trip of you “have to love yourself first before anyone else will” and I cannot even comprehend what any of you want of me

how do you “do” something you have no idea what it is???

why dont they make LAWS so parents have to HAVE PARENT and HUMAN skills to be allowed to have kids instead of letting people with no clue have people born to them that end up only SUFFERING their entire lives then, for given no clue what to do in society, all there*IS* is to fall…and flal further….and fall More and fall HARDER

there is no “LOVE” since it wasnt taught all there was was pain and agony taught
so how do you turn that into love when you cannot evne comprehend it???

just sickens me how everyone is so full of “answers” to things without even seeing the reality of life

By: Mare Bennett

Mare Bennett — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 20:44:16 +0000

“To become the beloved you must be able to be-loved. So let love in through the front door, by first remembering that you are a gift from God whose worthiness of love is inherent, for at your essence, love is what you are.”

There ya go.
A world of falling and rising in those words. Took a lifetime to get here.

Thanks.

By: Dov Baron

Dov Baron — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 17:37:02 +0000

Amanda, Viera, Zoe, Sharon, Tracy, Claire, Hembala,
My thanks to you and everyone else here for your kind word. I am delighted to know that what I share makes a dfference.

With sincere Gratitude, Dov…

P.S. Hembala, I spent a good amount of time studying the Vedanta with one of my mentors.

By: amanda

amanda — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 07:53:01 +0000

Dearest Dov
Thank you so very much for sharing your emotional and intellectual intelligence! Your words land on pages like breaths of fresh air. I sincerely wish you and your beloved a joyously beautiful Valentines Day! (and that’s every day of course!!!).

By: viera

viera — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 05:37:23 +0000

Dear Dov, now you really got me! I was convinced, that I’m better off on my own, then to be married again. But I have to think about it now. You are right, it can be wery scary, and I have to admit, that I’m terrified, but at the same time dream about my life with my soulmate.

By: Zoe

Zoe — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 04:25:13 +0000

perfectly put…. muchos gracious Dov .
I can honestly say now that I am finally open to another entering into my life. I am not looking but am open to it. I have spend my whole life working on myself, have been single for 5 years now (happily single I might add), still am. But I most certainly look forward to the moment when I meet the one for me. I can finally say, honestly too, that I LOVE myself unconditionally and forgive myself for anything and everything. This being said, just because I love myself doesn’t mean I would marry myself… not sure if this is even legal… hell gay marriage is still illegal in a lot of places… hahah… what would they think if I wanted to marry myself… I mean come one, this goes beyond incest! LOL. I didn’t even think I wanted to get married but I just realized (slapping my forehead) that I would love to marry myself… what a lovely union that would be =).

the love I have for my self resonates to all those around me.
I deeply wish that everyone can find it in their heart to forgive themselves too and to love themselves, to take care of themselves. It seems soo simple, but as we all know simple = complex, complex=simple…… sometimes the most obvious thing in the world… the thing that is hiding under our noses can also be hidden from our self….. only lost until it is found.
but I must remember too, that just because I wander, does not make me lost.
just because I’m going out, doesn’t mean I know where that is… all I know is that I am eating, breathing, laughing, seeing, smelling, hearing, tasting, and feeling my truth…. my lovely truth.

I am walking and talking my truth too…. and I am standing up for my rights (and lefts), for the rights (and lefts) of others.

“we are the ones we were waiting for”
“BE the change you want to see in the world”
“live the life you love, love the life you life”

Rainbow sparkles all around.
love, light, laughter and abundance
=)